Divorced after 30+ years of marriage I understand commitment. We raised 4 daughters. What I didn’t realize was that harmony and compatibility are key components in a relationship. Problem was I was neve allowed to be myself through guilt and shame I allowed myself to be manipulated became very unhappy and withholding intanacy was a weapon. I compromised by having an affair which I somewhat regret but it opened my eyes to the circumstances I was under. I also realized that I can’t stay in that suffocating environment. So I’m here looking for harmony and compatibility and intimacy. If those components can be established a solid foundation for relationship will be made.